Mila Kunis very recently came out with an open letter addressing gender discrimination in the entertainment industry. She finally spoke out about the fears that most women face in the workplace (sexual harassment, pressure from male bosses, objectification, and the list goes on and on and on). This particular letter spoke to me because every bit of what she wrote and had to say is how women have been feeling in the workplace all along.
After being asked to pose nude for a magazine cover, Kunis’ producer stated that she’ll never get a shot at continuing her career successfully (lies!).
After creating her own production company, she received an email celebrating her as famous actor Ashton Kutcher’s wife, rather than who she is and how far she’s come in her own career.
And why do women allow this to happen? Because, as Mila puts it:
“We compromise our integrity for the sake of maintaining the status quo and hope that change is coming.”
But it’s not.
Gender bias occurs no matter where you are.
Whether you’re an actress in Hollywood, a doctor at a hospital, or a stay at home mom, the sad truth is that you have experienced at least some sort of discrimination (mostly by men) throughout your lifetime. The reason why I’m sharing Mila Kunis’ letter with you is because, although this world is grim and unfair (forcing women to work ten times as hard as men) these situations are something we can change.
Mila confronted her producers, she rejected certain pressures, and she stood her ground when many people in the industry tried to put her down. As she stated, “we are conditioned to believe — that if we speak up, our livelihoods will be threatened; that standing our ground will lead to our demise. We don’t want to be kicked out of the sandbox for being a “bitch.”’
But if “bitch” means confronting your fears and stepping out of your comfort zone to say “NO” to those that treat you with less respect and dignity BECAUSE you’re a woman, then we should perhaps redefine that word.
Stop Compromising. Start Speaking Up.